The motivational book industry is one of the biggest and bestselling
printed materials industries not just in America, but around the world.
While this is completely understandable, as many books out there have
the potential to actually change the course of people’s lives, it
behooves us to look at some claims with a skeptical eye. Here are a few
themes that are played out in motivational books that you should think
about carefully before buying into:
- 1. Things could be a lot worse, so accept your fate.
This is one of the most bogus arguments that I hear from many
motivational speakers and writers. Of course, things could be a lot
worse. Things could be worse in any instance, as natural disasters,
crippling poverty, and armed conflict going on around the world can
attest to. At the same time, however, these problems do not, in any way,
affect or connect with problems that you are going through. To say that
you should just accept life as it is, is tantamount to never striving
for change.
- 2. Money and/or status are the most important things in life.
Although not all motivational books are guilty of this assertion,
many of these books are underpinned by the idea that we are aiming for
“success”, which means money and status, and that our problems are
simply obstacles to this idea of success. As Portnoy states in the
iconic novel “Portnoy’s Complaint”:
“American society [...] not only sanctions gross and unfair relations
among men, but it encourages them. Now, can that be denied? No.
Rivalry, competition, envy, jealousy, all that is malignant in human
character is nourished by the system. Possession, money, property–on
such corrupt standards as these do you people measure happiness and
success.”
- 3. You don’t have to sacrifice anything.
This is patently false, and when motivational books promise you that
you can have it all based on a following a set formula, know that you
are being duped. Life is tough, and we all must sacrifice one thing in
order to accomplish or acquire something else. The tricky part is know
which battles to pick, what to leave out, and what to compromise.
- 4. You can handle your problems without help from others.
This is one assumption that runs rampant throughout many motivational
books. And I’m convinced it is a direct result of America’s heritage of
the puritan work ethic that dictates that we can all pick ourselves up
from our bootstraps if we try hard enough. While I’m certainly not
disagreeing with some of the themes of this tradition, I will say that,
as John Donne put it, “No man is an island.” When the going gets tough,
hold on to your nearest and dearest, and learn to ask for help when you
need it.
While there is much that we can criticize about the self-help,
motivational genre, it does fill a hole that is sorely lacking our
lives. The most important thing to remember is to treat everything with a
healthy, open-hearted, optimistic doubt.
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