What do you want to be when you grow up? For some it may be a
disturbing notion to consider that even in our late twenties, thirties
and beyond we may still find ourselves asking this question of
ourselves. Before I was ten years old I knew with naïve assurance what
it was I wanted to do with my life. By the time I was twenty I was well
established in the career I had decided on ten years before. Shortly
after, life came along and swept the board clean.
If you can decide on a long-term career goal having it ahead of you
can be a source of comfort and certainty that you can draw on. Knowing
what you want to be when you grow up can serve as an anchor point in
life. You know where you are and you know where you’re going. You know
what needs to be done and have a plan for how to go about doing it.
On the other hand, indecision and uncertainty when it comes to
deciding which career path to choose, which job to take or what training
to pursue can become burdensome. Some may feel without a well-defined
path to tread throughout their working life that they are at sea without
an anchor. Simply drifting along to nowhere in particular. Achieving
nothing in particular.
And that’s just what to do during work hours.
Life is incredibly complex. It is filled with infinite possibilities limited only by our creative ability and courage. Do you perhaps want a family and to buy a house? Or do you want to travel, see the world and meet all manner of different people? Both? Would you like to start a business? Or perhaps you would like to disappear into the rural hills on your own quiet little self-sufficient farm? Learn a martial art? Learn to paint and draw? Meditate every day? Write a novel?
Life is incredibly complex. It is filled with infinite possibilities limited only by our creative ability and courage. Do you perhaps want a family and to buy a house? Or do you want to travel, see the world and meet all manner of different people? Both? Would you like to start a business? Or perhaps you would like to disappear into the rural hills on your own quiet little self-sufficient farm? Learn a martial art? Learn to paint and draw? Meditate every day? Write a novel?
In fact you might have an inkling that you would somehow like to do
all of the above. With so many possibilities you’re going to need to…
Prioritize
The wealth of possibility available to us can at times be as
paralyzing as having no clue whatsoever. The first step is surely to
bring some order to the multitude of pursuits, interests and potential
life paths you can envisage yourself enjoying. If you’re currently free
and unattached then you’ll have a broader scope of possibility
available. If you’re at a time in your life where you have
responsibilities and obligations the possibilities open to you must be
considered in light of those.
That certainly does not mean you should cast aside any of your
dreams. Part of being creative is being able to find a creative solution
that encompasses both achieving what you wish with your life while
still fulfilling your responsibilities.
I see this process much like brainstorming. First you while free of
any judgment brainstorm all the potential solutions and write them all
down. Only then do you begin to prioritize. How though to prioritize?
Well, first you need some…
Perspective
Perspective rules the world. Your perspective is your world. The
person who has never left the small town they were born in has limited
perspective. A person who lives their life with little consideration of
the nature of finite physical existence lives a life lacking
perspective.
Many people who have a near brush with death return from the
experience with a fresh set of priorities. They live their life
differently afterwards. For one thing material possessions reduce in
meaning while love, compassion, companionship and enjoying the simple
priceless thing of daily life to the full becomes much more important.
Before you prioritize make sure you take the time to ensure your
perspective is as broad and clear as possible. Reflect on your life so
far and listen to how that makes you feel. Imagine the things that will
matter when you’re old and you’re looking back on your life.
Now it’s time for you to…
Experiment
Life is not an intellectual debate, as much as some people would like
it to be otherwise. Life is something you do. It is something that
happens. We are be-ings. Get out and be in your life. Run small-scale
experiments to give you come idea what a course of action would feel
like if you did it full-time and for real.
For example, if you’re considering that maybe teaching something you
love such as martial arts may be the life for you try it on first. Start
assisting your sifu, sensei or coach and then see how you feel about
it. You might discover that teaching is far removed from what you really
love about martial arts, which may be training yourself. Or you might
find that you have an aptitude and a love for teaching others and that
teaching only deepens your art.
You won’t know until you get out there and try. Until you do the life
you’re leading is a life of pointless speculation. Choose a potential
course of action, test the waters and pursue or discard depending on the
outcome. Whatever happens be sure to keep in mind…
The Nature of Life
Despite the best-laid plans and intentions it is the nature of things
that they change. Life is not a static thing that conforms to our will.
It is more like music that we must sway to else be broken. Remember,
life is one gigantic possibility. When hardship, impassible barriers and
unforeseen circumstances come your way old doors are closing. If that’s
the way it is then let them close. It’s your job to find the new doors
that just opened.
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