It is inevitable you will be turned down at various points in your
life. You may get rejected when applying for a job, making a marriage
proposal or asking your boss for a pay raise. It is not a nice
experience to have, but thankfully it is possible to learn how to handle
rejection without letting it destroy you.
Here are 7 tips on what you can do:
1. Don’t take it personally. There are times in our
lives when we are rejected simply because of timing. If you ask someone
out to lunch but they have already eaten lunch, well they are going to
turn you down! If you apply for a part-time job at a department store
during the Christmas holidays the week of Christmas, they are going to
turn you down because they have enough staff. Some rejections have
nothing to do with us. So if you got turned down, do not second guess
that you are no good or that no one likes you. It may just be a
question of timing!
2. Think positively. It can be hard to think positively when you have been rejected, but try to turn the tables on this. If someone declines your offer for a social event, think about all the times when you have said no to others as well. Also, sometimes, getting rejected is a blessing in disguise. It may provide you with the space for something bigger that is about to happen!
2. Think positively. It can be hard to think positively when you have been rejected, but try to turn the tables on this. If someone declines your offer for a social event, think about all the times when you have said no to others as well. Also, sometimes, getting rejected is a blessing in disguise. It may provide you with the space for something bigger that is about to happen!
3. Listen to the rejection carefully. It is
important to pay attention to the reason for the rejection. This will
tell you if you have a second chance or not. If you apply for a job and
the Human Resources Director says “Not now, but call me in three
months,” you can choose to focus on the part about timing. Try asking a
follow up question to understand why you are being rejected now and get
creative in coming up with an alternative solution.
4. Be kind to yourself. Being rejected is a
disappointment to say the least. It can be very frustrating to put
yourself out there for either personal or professional reasons and then,
be told “no.” So, be kind to yourself after getting rejected in some
way. Engage in positive self talk and encourage yourself for the future.
Do not be silly by drowning your sorrows in food, alcohol, cigarettes
or overspending.
5. Have confidence in who you are. Learn to have
confidence that people will like you just as you are and to make
yourself the best “you” that you can be. Engage in hobbies and
activities that you. Laugh and sparkle! People will respond in amazing
ways and you will get to experience less rejection!
6. Know that everyone gets rejected. There are six
billion people on this earth. We are all beautiful, unique and
different. There are times we are in demand and times we may get
rejected. Knowing that rejection is an emotion that many people go
through is a reality check! So get over your victim mentality and move
on!
7. Try and try again. A popular sales motto is that
it takes twenty “nos” to get to one “yes.” Many successful authors like
Robert Kiyosaki and Mark Victor Hansen got their manuscripts rejected
several times by publishing houses before they hit big time! Learn from
these authors. Do not therefore take rejection as a sign of failure.
Instead, press on in your dreams!
A lot of rejection is not the actual rejection, but how you handle
it. If you engage in positive self-talk and have a confident attitude,
it is possible to attract a better outcome. Hence, keep picking yourself
up when you fall. Do not feel daunted but rejoice because you have
found one less way to being turned down. So, even if a new party says
“no” to you, you will always be able to transform your negative state of
mind to a more empowering one!
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