Do you ever experience negative emotions to the extent that you wish they would just go away forever?
We all do, and most people suffer unnecessarily because of them.
The good news is that you don’t have to do that. The bad news is that
most people will do it anyway, even though the tools are right in front
of their eyes.
Why?
Because of familiarity.
It’s uncomfortable to face the unknown, even though that is where all
the possibilities lie. You cannot have certainty and possibility.
You must face your emotions head on.
That is the key to peace. When you are willing to do that, you have reclaimed your freedom.
1. Now
You’re probably familiar with the Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. In the book, Eckhart puts forth a simple proposition, stay in the now and you will feel peace.
Most people don’t understand it right away, but when they do, their
life changes dramatically, because when you’re in the now, you are
present with everything around you.
Think of a time when you were anxious or afraid of a future event,
and notice what happened when that event happened and you experienced
it.
It wasn’t as bad as you thought it was, was it?
That’s because when you experienced it, you were in the now, and when that happened, the unknown became known.
2. Acceptance
This is another part of being in the now. Most people try to run away
from their negative emotions. They eat, watch TV, have sex, read, or
hang online.
When you get curious about the feeling and accept it as a part of you, it tends to disappear.
But how do you accept it when it feels so painful?
That’s the first hurdle you have to overcome, because when you do, you will realize that the pain was only half an inch thick.
You can either learn to let go of your negative emotions, or you can keep doing what you’ve been doing up until this point.
3. EFT
EFT is weird, but it works. Nowadays I use something called FasterEFT, which is more efficient and uses a few tricks from NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
It’s faster, and it works better than classic EFT, at least for me.
The mistake most people make is they dismiss EFT because of how it
looks.
Another mistake is that they use it a few days and give up. Changing
how you feel means going in and cleaning stuff up, and most of us have a
lot of garbage stored in our brain, so it takes time.
But after a while you start feeling a deep sense of peace, joy, and wholeness. At that point you know that it’s all worth it.
4. The Work
The Work was created by Byron Katie, and it’s a system of four simple questions:
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
- How do you react when you believe this thought?
- Who would you be without this thought?
That’s how it starts, and while my paraphrasing of the questions may
not be perfect, the questions still hold power, because they open up
your mind and beliefs to new possibilities.
There are so many options to feel better that I am confused about the
fact that people still try to drink and eat their problems away.
5. NLP
Last, but definitely not least is NLP, which I use when I work with
my own clients. NLP gives you the user’s manual for your brain.
It allows me to help my clients achieve quick changes that have big ramifications in their life.
As an example, one client came to me with writer’s block. She had trouble with anxiety when she sat down to write.0
She loved writing, but it wasn’t happening. She had some bad memories
and experiences from the past around writing, and when we cleared those
up, everything changed.
You see, we all have internal programs we learn. Sometimes we learn them in childhood, and sometimes we learn them as adults.
Some of these programs aren’t helpful, such as constantly worrying,
stopping yourself from writing, or scaring yourself so much that you
can’t go after your dreams.
It’s not that these programs are bad, because they work perfectly.
The problem happens when they stop you from doing something you want.
That’s when you need to change the programs within you.
The Bottom Line
In the end, you are the only one that can make the changes necessary.
I’ve had many people email me, and they want to feel good without any
effort.
If you want to transform who you are and live up to your full
potential, you have to first face the dragon (your fears), but what
you’ll realize is that your fears are only half an inch thick.
It’s terrifying, but it’s over in a heartbeat.
When you let go of your fears and negative memories, your life changes.
The question then is, are you ready for it?
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