Self trust is often overlooked yet it is the most
powerful virtue we have. In order to succeed in anything we must possess
this ability. Otherwise we are living through someone else.
When we trust ourselves we are first of all keeping our power, as
opposed to giving our power away to outside sources that we look to for
the right answer. Then when things don’t go as planned it becomes very
easy to play the victim role then blame that source for the
circumstances at hand.
You can avoid all this overwhelm by going back to
the basics. We all have within us the means and know how to do what
needs to be done. It all begins with feeling. We all have knee jerk
reactions to situations and do or say things we shouldn’t but if you
really listened to your body, something inside of you was telling you to
stop. This is why afterwards you feel bad. You already knew what the
outcome would be, yet ignored the signs/symptoms.
Because we cannot or do not know how to trust in ourselves, we
constantly live in a state of fear and worry (which is part of the
reason we have knee jerk reactions). This was a huge lesson for me in my
life. I parented out of fear I made decisions out of fear. Everything I
did was out of fear. Every action, every reaction. I lived in a
constant state of upset and turmoil in my mind until I understood what I
needed the most was to trust in myself to handle whatever situation
presented itself. And the strangest thing of all was, when you deal with
situations as they arise, they are not that big of a deal. When you
trust yourself in your abilities to deal with these things, you remain
calm and rational. It is all the energy expelled into the doubt fear and
worry that makes any situation more dramatic than it needs to be. This
understanding did not come easily for me. I seemed to fight it every
step of the way and it came with a lot of heartache before I got the
message.
The miracle of all this is when you have trust in
yourself, those so called situations become few and far between. You are
no longer overwhelmed, you say ‘no’ when you are asked to give more of
your time but don’t want to or can’t, you no longer second guess
yourself, and you suddenly learn to relax because you are not keeping so
busy trying to avoid yourself.
A few things to do when making a decision you are
unsure of is stop before reacting and feel what it feels like in your
body. Does it feel good or bad? To compare the feelings for future
reference, think about someone you really like, a friend, your mom,
someone who you love being around and who brings you pleasure. Now feel
that feeling and really take note of it.
Now on the flipside think of the opposite, someone you dislike, who
you feel uncomfortable around or who makes you angry or uneasy. Note
this feeling.
The next time you need to make a decision, parenting, buying a house,
relationship, career or anything, ask yourself the question needing
answered and compare the feelings.
Trust Yourself and your body to lead you in the right direction always and watch as your life relaxes and becomes exciting once again.
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