Confidence is something we would all like a little more of from time
to time. Even the most confident people can feel out of their depth in
some situations. If you are anything like me then you probably find
yourself confident in most familiar situations, but perhaps get a little
nervous when you are put into a new situation…or at least that is how I
used to feel 
This article is going to show you 3 simple and quick tools / methods
you can use to boost your confidence. All of these things are quick
boosts that you can do to help boost your confidence when you need it,
and the more you use them the stronger your confidence will get in the
long term, too.
They will only take a few minutes to do, but none of them are magic /
permanent solutions if all you ever do is use them once for 3 minutes.
For best results you should practice them on an ongoing basis or use
them at least once a day, and as you keep doing this the changes will
really start to build and spill over into your every day life.
Enough waffle anyway – here are my top 3 confidence building tools:
Positive Affirmations: You are probably sick of
hearing about affirmations, but have you actually committed to doing
them seriously for any real period of time, or have you thought about
doing them, or done them once and dismissed them?
Affirmations can sound a little too good to be true, or a little too
simple to actually work, but sometimes we look for the magic bullet, the
“all powerful” technique, and ignore the simple things which really
work if you stick to them.
I have been as guilty as anyone of neglecting affirmations, but after
really giving them a go I have made some real, and lasting changes in
my life.
If you are new to affirmations then as a basic definition they are
phrases that you repeat to yourself, about yourself, to tell yourself
something is true – the idea being that after you have repeated these
affirmations over and over you will change your self perceptions,
beliefs, and actually become more confident, more motivated, more
positive etc. Here are a few possible affirmations for improving
confidence:
- I am naturally confident and outgoing
- I feel confident in all situations
- I exude confidence when meeting new people
- I feel naturally confident both inside and out, at all times
All affirmations should be in the first person, and positive, and if
you need to you can find various affirmations lists on-line, but I would
recommend writing your own – this way they are much more personal. A
good way to do this is to brainstorm how you would think and feel about
yourself if you were more confident and use these phrases as your
affirmations.
Usage is simple – repeat your list of affirmations a couple of times
on a morning, and then again before you go to bed. If you actually
commit to this and do this every day for a month you should notice a
real difference.
Anchoring: This is one of my favorite quick
techniques ever, probably because of it’s simplicity. Anchoring can be a
really effective way to change your attitude, beliefs, and even
behavior.
Anchoring is basically a way of tying an emotion of feeling to a
physical action, and then later reproducing this physical action later
when you need to. For example you can tie the emotions and feelings
associated with confidence to pinching your index finger.
To do some quick anchoring simply think of a time when you felt
naturally full of confidence. If you are struggling it can even be
something as simple as just going to the local shop, or hanging out with
friends. Really try and experience the feelings again and at their
height pinch your index finger. This “anchors” the feeling of pinching
your finger to the feeling of confidence.
You can keep repeating this exercise, trying to make the feelings
more intense each time, or thinking of other times when you felt
confident and adding these to your anchor too, and next time you are
nervous or in a new situation you can pinch your index finger and remind
yourself of how confident you can be.
Subliminal Audio: This is my area of expertise, and I
will be the first to admit that it is not for everyone, but with the
right attitude and understanding subliminal messaging can bring
fantastic benefits. Subliminal audio is basically just positive
affirmations recorded to audio, and moved to a sound frequency just out
of the range of your hearing capacity – but which can still be processed
by your subconscious mind.
When positive affirmations are transmitted in this way they basically
act as a very mild form of hypnosis (only without inducing a trance
like state), to make gradual changes in your subconscious mind.
As I said, it isn’t for everyone, and isn’t a magic or completely
effortless solution, it simply adds some subconscious support and gives
you a boost. Just as positive affirmations work to gradually eliminate
your negative thoughts and self beliefs, subliminal audio works in the
exact same way – over time (which ranges from a few days to a few weeks
depending on the changes you are trying to make) the messages will build
in your subconscious mind, and begin to spill over into your conscious
mind and make real lasting changes to your self perception and even
physical behavior.
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