I learn so much from my clients. Anyone who is a coach will attest
to this. It really is a blessing to work with people who are striving
for a better life and way of living…. these people are such an
inspiration to me and they are some of my best teachers.
Recently, I was working with a client who has having trouble feeling
good. He was feeling so miserable about his job, about his current
situation and about his responsibilities. He was feeling overwhelmed
and he didn’t know what to do.
One morning he woke up feeling really bad. So I taught him how to use affirmations to change the way he feels.
So he started saying the affirmation, “I feel great,” “I feel
great,” “I feel great,” “I feel great,” … over and over again for 5
minutes straight and realized he still felt like shit.
But he didn’t give up…
He kept using the affirmation (“I feel great”) on and off for the
rest of the morning in 5 minute mini-segments… and later that afternoon
he started feeling better. In his own words, “I had a few insights and
started to really enjoy myself. I started to feel really good.”
So with that in mind I thought I would share with you 6 Affirmation Secrets to Make You Feel Better:
1. Repetition. Affirmations don’t work unless you work them.
Repetition is what lays the ground work for this exercise. It requires
attention and concentration if you’re going to make it work, but it
shouldn’t be forced, which brings me to number two…
2. Be persistent but not forceful. You want to gently repeat the
affirmation to yourself. Don’t force it on yourself… just gently insert
it in your mind repeating it out loud or quietly to yourself. Either
way will work. What’s more important is that you focus on the
affirmation and exclude any other distractions or random thoughts. Keep
at if for 5 minutes to get it going and then you want to…
3. Let go of it. Once you use the affirmation for 5 minutes… let
it go. Don’t hold on, don’t dwell on it, don’t ask yourself if it’s
working. Just repeat the affirmation and then forget it. You don’t
have to hold on to it… just let it go and trust. You’ll be surprised
what surfaces and how you feel; which reminds me that…
4. You Don’t Need to Believe What You’re Saying. This is so
important. I’ve heard on more than one occasion that affirmations only
work if you believe them. You don’t need to believe what you’re
saying! Absolutely not. My client didn’t believe it; he felt like crap
and he still persisted… over and over again saying to himself “I feel
great,” and the rest took care of itself. What’s more important is
that you…
5. Get Into the Rhythm of It. Stop taking everything so seriously
and start becoming more playful. Lighten up and have fun while you’re
doing this. Make it a game and get into the rhythm of it; get into the
flow of it so that you begin to feel it. The very last thing you want
to remember is that…
6. There is a delay. You won’t change how you feel immediately.
The thoughts you repeat to yourself now will affect the way you feel
later. Said another way, the way you feel right now is because of what
you were thinking – not what you are thinking right now. So take the
time to create good-feeling thoughts right now.
Here are a few affirmations you can start using right away:
* “I feel great”
* “Today is light and easy”
* “It’s getting better and better everyday”
Try them and change the way you feel. You’ll be glad you did.
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