Charisma can help you in many aspects of life. It can help you win
friends, be popular with the opposite sex, and even land that new
exciting job.
There is almost nothing that charisma can’t help you
achieve. For some, it is very natural to be charismatic. They just
seem to have that ‘X-Factor’. However it is comforting to know that
charisma can also be developed. Here are 4 top methods to help boost
your charisma…
1. Have goals you are working towards
There are a lot more followers than leaders, so if you want to stand
out then be a trailblazer. There is nothing wrong with being a
follower, but people are naturally drawn to leaders. Set yourself goals
to work to. Have a sense of purpose and a vision – a big goal that you
are working towards. You may or may not succeed to meet your goal, or
it might change over time, but if you always have one, people will
naturally feel drawn to you as you present the possibility of an
exciting future.
Don’t simply pretend to have a goal as people will quickly see
through you and you will lose all credibility. In any case it is far
more satisfying to spend life attempting to meet realistic goals.
2. Love yourself
If you don’t like yourself, how do you expect others to like you?
Unconsciously you give out thousands of small subconscious clues on how
you should be treated, and it all begins with treating yourself right.
You need to learn to appreciate that you are a unique and valuable
human being. Accept yourself as you are. It’s fine to have some
flaws. You can work on improving them. However it must be remembered
that the most charismatic people on earth are the ones with flaws.
Someone who is perfect is not really all that interesting anyway.
People are drawn to people, not robots. Be happy with who you are, wart
and all. Love yourself and others will soon follow suit.
3. Be honestly interested in others
You must have met many people who talk incessantly about themselves?
This may be OK at first, but after a while it becomes very tiresome and
you just want to avoid them.
Charismatic people appreciate other people just as much as they
appreciate themselves. Relax and listen properly to what other people
are saying. Give them space to talk. You will learn new things, and
they will notice and appreciate that you actually listen to them. The
Chinese have a saying which is “You have two ears and one mouth – use
them in that proportion.”
Some people struggle concentrating on listening to others, and become
anxious that they may forget what they are thinking next. This causes
them to not listen properly to what the person was saying, as they
struggle to remember what they want to say, then immediately respond to
what they say with something totally irrelevant. This will not win yu
too many fans, and is irritating to the recipient. Relax, allow that
thought to disappear, and listen. This thought will return if it is
still relevant. If it is so important, you will remember it again some
time in the future. With a little practice listening becomes much
easier, and you will enjoy far more productive two way conversations.
4. Model someone who you consider very charismatic
Hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners often very successfully utilize this technique.
It could be a friend, a celebrity, or even a fictional character that
you model. You may wish to be like James Bond for example. Don’t try
and copy them exactly, just consider how they would act in the
situations you face. You have to sometimes be careful with this as it
may not be appropriate to blow up the whole building up with your watch,
or do a flying kick to the face a la Bruce Lee! Get a ‘feel’ of a
certain character, and how they work on the inside. Try to catch their
essence, rather than exactly cloning them. Done with thought and care
this can significantly raise your charisma levels.
So remember you must have goals that you are working towards, love
yourself, listen to others, and model yourself on other charismatic
people. Try to be charismatic, but don’t try too hard. Watch other
people and observe what they ‘get right’ and what they ‘get wrong’ in
the charisma stakes. This will greatly increase your awareness over
time, and help hone your skills. Pretty soon you will notice huge
strides in charisma levels, and your success and enjoyment of life will
also soar. Now get out there and wow the world with your new charming
charismatic self!
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