Is your self-confidence natural, or a daily struggle?
Many people’s confidence naturally wavers from day to day, leaving
them too timid or confused at just the wrong time. Whether you are
naturally confident or could use some better eye contact with your life,
setting in place a few simple strategies goes a long way to stoke your
inner confidence.
If you think you’re not especially smart or capable, or that failure is a given no matter how hard you try, you’re right.
And if you believe you’re brilliant and can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’re right.
Amplifying your inner confidence is like any other skill you develop;
you can do it in a blink. Day by day, step by step, you will get closer
to your goals. No one runs a marathon fueled by decision alone. It
takes days, weeks, and months of consistent exercise before your
muscles, lungs and stamina will harmonize enough to give you winning
results.
Same with confidence. Use these 10 tips to start appearing as confident on the outside as you will soon feel on the inside.
1. It’s not about you. Understand people’s actions,
even when hurtful, rarely have anything to do with you. It’s easy to
read into the negativity of others and see it as a slight to our
personality or challenge to our ego.
Yet this type of reaction can
trigger unnecessary stress and prevent you from focusing on the positive
things in your life. People are people; there’s never a need to link
their behavior and your happiness. Knowing this gives you freedom to
feel the confidence you deserve.
2. Buy clothes that fit. Wearing clothes that fit
well and flatter, no matter the shape of your body, provides an enormous
boost to your self esteem. Don’t wait until you’ve arrived at a magical
ideal to start dressing your best. Clothes never make the person, but
it’s hard to feel
confident inside when your outside sends signals of uncertainty. Love
what you’re wearing and the world is likely to love it too.
3. Keep laughing. Let your brain give vent to the
endorphins that will fill you with authentic happiness and internal
confidence. Laughter releases some of the tension that invariably builds
in your body each day. Pepper your routine with the people or media
that make you most happy. You don’t have to overdo it, but a bit of
levity goes a long way toward elevating your level of confidence.
4. Embrace the quiet. Many people are eager to
populate every waking second with activity. With a world moving at the
speed of broadband, the problem blooms more with every passing day.
Realize you can be comfortable alone with your thoughts and you will
provide your internal processes the space needed to develop. This will
make you more comfortable with yourself, helping you appear more
confident to others.
5. Make a budget. If this isn’t natural for you,
take the time to do it anyway. Claiming control of your finances is an
early step to a healthy attitude about money. Though many people believe
confidence comes with having lots of cash, confidence accompanies a
clear picture of what you have and what you need.
6. Don’t gossip. Exit conversations that swim in
hearsay. Indulging in idle chatter might make you feel in the loop, but
the feeling is fleeting and will leave you wondering what others are
saying about you when you’re not around. Take the high road – you’ll
feel better inside and appear far more confident to others around you.
7. Do as you say and say as you do. This doesn’t
mean you have to draw neat lines through all of life’s to-do’s, but if
you articulate your goals, and start to accomplish them, easy ones
first, you will develop a mindset of success. This, in turn, makes it
easier to feel confident. Your goals could be anything from running your
first 5K to finally cleaning out the garage; learning how to strum a
guitar or play the piano. Whatever your goals, find something you truly
desire, make a promise to see it through to the end, then feel the confidence of success.
8. Make peace with your body. You will always want
to stay active and improve your health, but your confidence comes with
the understanding that no matter your size, shape, number of wrinkles or
height, you are a person who deserves love and dignity from yourself
and those around you. Truly know this, and confidence will bleed through
your skin.
9. Realize you know more than you think you do. All those things you think everyone else just knows?
Well, they don’t. If you don’t know something, there’s no shame in
asking for the answer. Admitting you don’t have the answer is the first
step toward finding it, and the right answers pave the road to
confidence.
10. Be enthusiastic. Playing it cool is a great way
to ignore your honest emotions and bury the authentic you. Be happy and
excited, and allow the world to see it. Your joy will be infectious,
your confidence contagious.
You don’t have to follow all 10 of these tips, but they are starters
that will help you find your internal confidence and boost your sense of
self belonging. No one feels confident 100% of the time, but there are
steps you can take to make yourself feel far more confident than you
probably do now.
Start with any of the 10 items on this list, and start feeling better inside out today!
Confidence is the key to EVERYTHING.
Ever wondered exactly how self confident you actually are?
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