Today I thought I would take some time out and share some of the
wisdom I have acquired after 4 happy years of marriage with my wife.
After some careful consideration I realized that a blank page would not
be an interesting post to read at all. It would be just too confusing.
So what I do have for you to read today is 5 steps that I think could
possibly help you not be as confused as I am written from my vast
knowledge in the sanctity of marriage with my extensive 4 years of
experience.
Now before we dig deeper into these steps I would first like to
disclose that the steps discussed here so far have worked for me. They
were also written from a man’s perspective. Please use any of them at
your own risk.
Step 1: Compliment your partner aggressively.
I tell my wife she is gorgeous everyday and that I am lucky to be
with her. When she answers the phone I greet her by saying “Is this the
woman I have been dreaming about?” When she dresses up and looks amazing
I act like a fool that can’t control myself. Say things like, I refuse
to let you go anywhere without me looking that good or I think I just
fell in love all over again and other things I refuse to share because
there might be children present.
Step 2: Make contact.
I intentionally get in my wife’s way to the point where she has to
physically move me. It lets her know that I want her attention and also
that I would do anything to be around her. I hold her hand while I am
driving. I push her into puddles when it is raining. I slip my hands in
her back pockets and take out money. This usually results in some type
of pain on my part but I do anything to make her make contact with me.
Step 3: Play games.
I don’t ever want to play Family Feud Home Edition ever again. My
wife and I play this game and she DESTROY’S me mercifully every time we
play. I think the last score was 777 to 25. It was embarrassing. I even
the odds when we played Madden though. Take that. This keeps our
competitive edge and also allows us to be playful even going as far as
smack talk. If she mentions the feud at our family reunion though, you
might see blood.
Step 4: Get a DVR.
I do not know how my wife can watch some of the crap that comes on
TV. I refuse to spend hours of my day watching (the show she likes) or
(the other show she likes). I can just see the brain cells dying as she
watches that mess. So instead of forcing myself to spend time with her
watching mindless TV shows we DVR them and hang out together. Now in her
defense I also have to DVR Man vs. Wild every week. Bear is just
awesome.
Step 5: Remind them why they love you.
We go back down memory lane often. We talk about the good ole days
when I used to buy flowers and plan elaborate dates. I tell her about
how when she went out of town for two weeks I thought I would die when
we were in high school. Now I tell her about the celebration of freedom I
would have with two weeks off. No, but reminiscing about the challenges
you guys have gone through together is like cement. Focus on the good
days not the bad.
With these five steps I think you might be able to make your marriage
happy for at least 4 years. I will let you know how it goes on year 5.
Now it’s your turn. What five steps would you give me?
Frank Jennings is a freelance writer and the founder of A Spark Starts - ‘All it takes is one spark to start a fire that can change your life!’
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